Question about winnings

#1
Hey guys, something happened today and I am sure I am just being petty, but I would like some other peoples opinions on this.

Went to the casino today with the GF. Didnt play BJ at all today as we just went there to play BINGO.

Anyways, I always pay for the BINGO cards when we go and today it was like $8 for each of us so I spent $16 total plus a couple bucks for popcorn.

Well, she goes on to win $500. Awesome. Totally cool!

The problem I had was I paid for her cards. I would think just something she should do would be at least offer me 100 bucks. I can see myself doing that if someone bought my card and I won $500. Anyways, she offered to take me out for lunch which ended up costing her $10 for my food.

I know I am probably just being a prick, but man, we are thinkin of moving in together and have been dating for 3 years and this just really bothers me....

Thanks for any advice.
 

NAP

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#2
rondoman said:
The problem I had was I paid for her cards.
The problem here is that the cards were viewed as hers, not yours. So it stands to reason that the money made from her cards is hers. She buys you $10 of food despite only owing you just $8 from the card. Seems to me like she went above and beyond!

If you wanted her to give you a portion of winnings, then that should have been made clear beforehand. Try putting another friend of yours in that same situation as opposed to your girlfriend. Would your expectation have been the same?
 

Lonesome Gambler

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#4
So you bought your girlfriend an $8 bingo card and it paid off? You could try being happy for her instead of expecting some sort of monetary return on her good fortune. This is your girlfriend, right?

I bet a nickel for a dealer once and hit a 100:1 payout on the wager. She was shocked that I gave her the whole $500 (although, in a true cheapskate move, I managed to get the original $5 toke wager back!), but the $5 was for her, not me, as I made clear before placing the wager. And she wasn't even my girlfriend!
 

Machinist

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#5
Rondo,
More information on said girl friend will be needed to give the very best assessment of the situation at hand. Such as a picture for starters,,,,,,,or pictures......Also her wants needs and desires would be useful.
Anything could be of real help here.

Machinist
 

Shoofly

Well-Known Member
#6
rondoman said:
Hey guys, something happened today and I am sure I am just being petty, but I would like some other peoples opinions on this.

Went to the casino today with the GF. Didnt play BJ at all today as we just went there to play BINGO.

Anyways, I always pay for the BINGO cards when we go and today it was like $8 for each of us so I spent $16 total plus a couple bucks for popcorn.

Well, she goes on to win $500. Awesome. Totally cool!

The problem I had was I paid for her cards. I would think just something she should do would be at least offer me 100 bucks. I can see myself doing that if someone bought my card and I won $500. Anyways, she offered to take me out for lunch which ended up costing her $10 for my food.

I know I am probably just being a prick, but man, we are thinkin of moving in together and have been dating for 3 years and this just really bothers me....

Thanks for any advice.
To use your own words, you are "just being petty." You GAVE it to her. No strings attached. There was no reasonable expectation of profit.

Instead of being happy for her, you are bothered by this. If I were HER, I would have serious misgivings about YOU.
 
#7
A plot summary of the 1998 movie "Sour Grapes"

Richie, a sneaker sole designer, and his cousin Evan, a brain surgeon, are spending this weekend with their girlfriends in Atlantic City. Having exhausted their gambling funds, Richie drops his last quarter into a slot machine. Evan advises him that he needs two more quarters to really make it big and proceeds to give him the extra coins. Richie pulls the lever. Moments later, three grapes across, Richie is scooping up a $436,000 jackpot. Does Evan get two-thirds of the payoff for two-thirds of the investment? Not in Richi's eyes. How about half?
 

shadroch

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#8
Relationships are a matter of give and take. You give, she takes. Get used to it.
If something this petty causes you to seek solice from strangers, you may not be ready for the next step in your relationship.
 

sagefr0g

Well-Known Member
#9
Machinist said:
Rondo,
More information on said girl friend will be needed to give the very best assessment of the situation at hand. Such as a picture for starters,,,,,,,or pictures......Also her wants needs and desires would be useful.
Anything could be of real help here.

Machinist
omg!! what a hustler.
anyway Rondo, if this relationship goes any further, you may want to draw up a pre-nuptial contract.:cool2::whip:
 

Machinist

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#10
HEY!!!!!
Come on, the guy asks a question that all of us old ijiots got answered many many moons ago!!!!!
The ole if I knew now what I knew then thingy!!!!
8 bucks or 500 is cheeeeeaaap to make your woman happy.
I was just trying to get a feeling of what this woman was like. Heck maybe she was going to spend most of her winnings on him????
Maybe she was gonna throw a pajama party with the money for a bunch of her girl friends.
We all have nothing to go on except she kept the 500 and he bought the 8$ card.
Look at poor Brad Pitt and Jennifer Anniston, I guess the goods weren't that exciting once the honeymoon was over. Now Angelina........................well she must be a keeper....
Maybe if Brad would have asked more questions he wouldn't have wasted his time on itty bitty Jennifer.....
Happy wife..........Happy life..........

Machinist
 
#11
Thamks guys!!

Shes gonna put the rest in her savings she said. I dont feel as bad about it today. Its just that if she paid for me, and I won, it wouldnt even be a question of at least slippin her a bill. But like some of you said, such is the nature of a relationship.
Thanks.
 
#12
the ultimate AP game

Both of you have issues.

You got $500 value with this girl for $8 and your complaining? The lovin for the week would have been good if you did not mess it up with whining? Or sad face.

Before play if you would have said, after the cost of cards we split the win. She probably would be fine.

Better, just split the win while you eat the card loss. It may appear petty to do the math of win - cost of cards.

The above would be an act of team building, instead you were actually playing against each other.

She should have shared, a really good woman would have.
You should be happy for her; even if she keep it all, a really good man would have.

I hope you did not whine. If so she may be evaluating you negatively. She is evaluating you for marriage, kids & home and your a child over $500?

If you do this again with her, the bar is set. What she wins is hers! Anything less and you are taking from her. If you win either split after cost or take her out to a great dinner.

non AP women in a casino think its just lucky money won so why wouldn't the man share?

Any woman wearing designer labels value money.
If she is beautiful you face near endless competition, attractive women are approached constantly.

Money should flow like water around women, if a man does not want to buy or do something with a woman the stated reason should not be money.

In broad general terms:
Men value looks
Women value money

In defense of women, women look for a father of children and happy nests, which take money. Why should she deal with your smelly broke butt! In defense of men, beauty is a sign of health to produce healthy children. Look to nature where in general terms the biggest, most productive & attractive mate.

If your an AP (split the cards to increase hit frequency is the good play) & socially, you misplayed this.
 

Machinist

Well-Known Member
#13
blackjack avenger said:
Both of you have issues.

You got $500 value with this girl for $8 and your complaining? The lovin for the week would have been good if you did not mess it up with whining? Or sad face.

Before play if you would have said, after the cost of cards we split the win. She probably would be fine.

Better, just split the win while you eat the card loss. It may appear petty to do the math of win - cost of cards.

The above would be an act of team building, instead you were actually playing against each other.

She should have shared, a really good woman would have.
You should be happy for her; even if she keep it all, a really good man would have.

I hope you did not whine. If so she may be evaluating you negatively. She is evaluating you for marriage, kids & home and your a child over $500?

If you do this again with her, the bar is set. What she wins is hers! Anything less and you are taking from her. If you win either split after cost or take her out to a great dinner.

non AP women in a casino think its just lucky money won so why wouldn't the man share?

Any woman wearing designer labels value money.
If she is beautiful you face near endless competition, attractive women are approached constantly.

Money should flow like water around women, if a man does not want to buy or do something with a woman the stated reason should not be money.

In broad general terms:
Men value looks
Women value money

In defense of women, women look for fathers and happy nests, which take money. Why should she deal with your smelly broke butt! In defense of men, beauty is a sign of health to produce healthy children. Look to nature where in general terms the biggest, most productive & attractive mate.

If your an AP & socially, you misplayed this.
Wow...nicely said Avenger!!!!!!!


Machinist
 
#15
I never whined to her at all. I just thought about the situation. Im happy for her. She was behind on some bills so this was good for us. She does a lot for me. Its just I can be selfish sometimes. This thread helped me out a lot, thank you guys. And ye I do have issues lol!!!
 

paddywhack

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#16
Women, can't live with 'em, can't live with 'em. Er, uh, yea, that's right.

Get used to it. What's yours is her's and what's her's is her's.

Just make sure these situations won't cause you any grief if and when you decide you have a future together.

Money disagreements can be very nasty, and unfortunately, divorce is really neg ev unless you'd rather kill yourself than stay in the relationship, lol.
 

aslan

Well-Known Member
#18
paddywhack said:
Women, can't live with 'em, can't live with 'em. Er, uh, yea, that's right.

Get used to it. What's yours is her's and what's her's is her's.

Just make sure these situations won't cause you any grief if and when you decide you have a future together.

Money disagreements can be very nasty, and unfortunately, divorce is really neg ev unless you'd rather kill yourself than stay in the relationship, lol.
My marriage has a similar but simpler phrasing: "Everything is hers." :( But I guess you could also say, "The rest is mine." :rolleyes:

Hey, if you didn't love them, you wouldn't marry them!
 

Machinist

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#19
aslan said:
My marriage has a similar but simpler phrasing: "Everything is hers." :( But I guess you could also say, "The rest is mine." :rolleyes:

Hey, if you didn't love them, you wouldn't marry them!
You have to marry them?? Sometimes an AP career and a womans career can't mix.

Mac
 
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