Dealing with the wife or g/f

[GeorgeD]

Even the losing is not a problem if it's money you can afford and really don't care losing. If you lose the rent money and wind up on the street. There's a problem.

Like most addictions, gambling is said to be "a problem" when it interferes with other aspects of your life like work and family obligations. From that point of view, a wife complaining that you spend too much time gambling is not a lot different from someone who argues with their wife over spending time in a bar, or for that matter too much time on the job. Working too much is dangerous if it destroys your family, the bar is bad if you drink to excess, the gambling if you lose what you can't afford. All are bad if you don't keep your life and relationships in balance, though with work and BJ we all have to decide our priorities.

As they say, nobody goes to the grave thinking "wish I worked more". The same should apply to a pro

 

[iwantblackjack]

As they say, nobody goes to the grave thinking "wish I worked more". The same should apply to a pro

Would the addict, the pro, or both, say "wish i won that hand"?
I guess in my opinion, if wife/husband, gf/bf, family member thinks you are playing too much, then it is a problem. (especially if s/he thinks you are playing too often or/& too much money -- even if in your eyes you dont care if that money disappeared within a minute of a deal.) It's all relative of course to our personal stuff. I would like refresh everyone with the classical 20 questions of determining if you have a gambling problem and can be classified as problem gambler or even compulsive gambler. http://www.gamblersanonymous.org/20questions.html

 

[EasyRhino]

Oh, I forgot the "Is that illegal?" question. I got that too from Mom, mainly when I was trying to explain online bonus-hustling, and why Neteller has a few thousand of my dollars.

Understandable, I guess.

 

[Thunder]

Yeah I try to explain what card counting is and how using hi-lo, I actually take away the casino's advantage but I might as well be speaking Greek to someone who doesn't care for math. What it comes down to is I think women in general are more risk adverse than men. The thought to most people of even having the potential of losing thousands of dollars counting negates any possible gain you might make despite you explaining the ROR to them and any other math statistic you want.

 

[Kasi]

Guy sitting on a bench deep in thought thinking:

"She told me we couldn't afford beer anymore and I'd have to quit.

Then I caught her spending $65 on make-up.

So I asked how come I have to give up stuff and you don't.

She said she needed the makeup to look pretty for me.

I told her that was what the beer was for.

I don't think she's coming back."

:grin:

 

[Coz123]

But I taught her BS, she plays perfectly and now we enjoy many hours together playing for hours and hours on a couple hundred bucks.

My husband recently took an interest in BS and we can't wait to try it out next week in Vegas. He has seen how lucrative it can be, especially since I took the time to really study and practice BS. I'm happy that it's a hobby we can both enjoy. Guilt free gambling; clearly I live a charmed life!

 

[Preston]

I got it weird with this.

My wife is my partner. She is a better counter than me, and has no problem with it. She prefers to have me do the playing because I can stomach the huge bets.

But our parents are the problem. My dad says that my "gambling" "scares the hell out of him." My mom is intrigued that I make money at it, but also reminds me every time she calls me while I'm at a casino that "Your great uncle lost everything betting on horses." I always remind her that there is a BIG difference between a horse bet and a +5 TC bet. She doesn't believe me when I tell her I actually can have an advantage on the house.

My dad has always had a strict "no gambling" mindset. My grandparents (mother's side) made a lot of money in the stock market. My dad wouldn't let us "invest" our money there since he saw it as a form of gambling. My grandmother nags me constantly about investing.

I told her what I do, showed her my win/loss sheet and she was impressed.... said something along the lines of "I guess you inherited some of your grandfather's math skills."

My dad's father, oddly enough, survived for a few years exclusively by playing poker.

My in-laws are a different story, they think counting is illegal. So whenever it's brought up always say "just wait until you get caught." or they'll go on about how much they hate casinos.

Which is kinda funny... since my wife got hired by one of the casinos we'd hit a few months ago ...

My brother asked me if I could help him make money at the casino. I told him to save his money. He doesn't understand the amount of work it took, and will take to continue making $$ at this....

 

[Kasi]

My husband recently took an interest in BS and we can't wait to try it out next week in Vegas. He has seen how lucrative it can be, especially since I took the time to really study and practice BS. I'm happy that it's a hobby we can both enjoy. Guilt free gambling; clearly I live a charmed life!

Go gentle with him It can be pretty scary the first time. At least my wife was terrified - betting $10 on a hand when all you know is slot machines seems like your risking a fortune.

Maybe bring BS cards for all decks and don't be afraid to use one at the table if u have to. I mean for him lol. That way he can take the card and go play by himself and you'll have a vacation within a vacation lol.

Hopefully a new BJ player will be born!

Good luck at the Flamingo and have fun. Hope your quasi anti-Martingdale works! Let me know how u did!