mRiv, I won't blast you or question your motives, but cut through the posturing from some of the best AP players in the world and their posts, and take their bottom line advice.
I've played with the counting advantage on and off for about ten years. Finding a compotent, honest, and qualified team mate is rare. Refer to Blackwoods book "Play Blackjack Like The Pros." I've seen teams get busted, at the tables, and it ain't pleasant, but they usually desintigrate long before they are ever 'discovered.' This is due to the usual dis-honesty, theft (of cash, wives, comps, etc) or just bad play issues. I have always played alone, and will continue to do so. The only person I am accountable to for my bad decisions is myself.
I just got back from AC, first time out in 5 years. Ecked out just over 5K with marathon sessions at the only house left in AC with decent rules, and the cheap seats. Drove to the boardwalk, and played much worse games, overbetting, while knowing the house was running an eval program on my play. Stupid, stipid, and dumb. Gave most of it back. I am very hard on myself, and this was an act of sheer stupidity on my part. At least I don't have to explain it (or lie about it) to a teammate who may have had an additional cash interest in my poor judgement.
This ain't an easy job. My suggestion for you is the same as I try to follow:
1. Keep an accurate count, use I18, and spread accordingly -- EVERY HAND, SHOE, TABLE, CASINO! Keep up the practise at home, it's free.
2. Keep to yourself while building a bankroll NO ONE ELSE has an interest in.
3. MOST IMPORTANT!!!!!!!!! Don't give in and OVER BET, or go on TILT! See a show, go to a nudey bar, take a snooze, do anything else if you need a break. Don't try to catch up, or blow through a nice "goal" on tilt.
*It's not the dealers fault and the cards don't care!