Do you tell people you're an AP?

Richard Munchkin

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#6
When my kids were little I did not. When my son was in Kindergarten he came home one day and told me the teacher asked what his father did for a living. My son said, "He plays blackjack." The teacher breezed over it and said, "Oh, that's nice." I'm sure she didn't believe it. I told my kids in the future just say, He's a writer.
 

Sucker

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#10
If you tell your family & friends, you'll get one or two reactions: They'll either think you're nothing but a loser, or they'll think you're a multimillionaire.

I personally have no problem dealing with the first group; it's the SECOND group - always trying to borrow money! :mad:
 

shadroch

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#11
Sucker said:
If you tell your family & friends, you'll get one or two reactions: They'll either think you're nothing but a loser, or they'll think you're a multimillionaire.

I personally have no problem dealing with the first group; it's the SECOND group - always trying to borrow money! :mad:
Sometimes a small loan is a great way to lose that "friend" who has long outgrown his welcome. Instead of having to try to avoid him, lend him $20 and now he'll avoid you.
 

johndoe

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#12
I've told select family and friends, but generally only those who are capable of having a reasonable understanding of the nature of being an AP. Thankfully, none think I'm a loser, nor do any hit me up for $$. (Well, except the missus! :grin: )
 
#13
No, I do not. I've known another AP come out of hiding and the result wasn't pretty.

Numerous potential downsides, mostly social issues. Suddenly nobody wanted to be around that 'degenerate gambler' as everybody was expecting him to hound his friends for loans.

Funny thing; he revealed that hes been APing for 3+ years and has been the most cashed-up one in his social group. I guess logic is not his social group's strongest suit.

Also thanks to the rumor-mongering of his so-called 'friends', the ladies started avoiding him like the plague. (Except 1 or 2 observant gold-diggers.)

The only upside I can think of is bragging rights, hardly worth all of the above downsides.

Nope, I'll be fine in the shadows.
 

Shoofly

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#14
Told a few family members. Usually get the slow shake of the head and that clucking sound with their tongue, as if to say "Poor man, doesn't he know you can't beat the casino?" I just don't talk about it much anymore.
 

BJLFS

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#15
Since I am not full time yes I do. Most people think it's just something I'm having fun with and making a few $$ on the side.
 

shadroch

Well-Known Member
#16
Shoofly said:
Told a few family members. Usually get the slow shake of the head and that clucking sound with their tongue, as if to say "Poor man, doesn't he know you can't beat the casino?" I just don't talk about it much anymore.

I get a lot of that, but my new Tesla should put an end to it.
 

Lowrider

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#17
Told my GF only which was much better than not telling her....running off to the BJ tables for countless hours without having a reasonable chance to win would destroy my relationship. Because she is smart and mathematically adept she understands the small percentage favor in my direction....was challenging when I had horrendous variance for two months though.

Would never tell anyone else...**** them.
 

Friendo

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#18
Lowrider said:
Told my GF ... she understands the small percentage favor in my direction....was challenging when I had horrendous variance for two months though.
The hardest part about dropping 35 maximum bets in 10.5 hours of play was explaining it to the pair of X chromosomes I live with. I don't have to share bankroll data with anyone but my woman, but I think it's hard enough to explain this to ourselves without having to explain it to others. The fewer people who know, the better.

Whipping out money at the tables, I'm often grateful that nobody I know is watching. If my friends/coworkers thought I was just gambling, I would be embarrassed.
 
#19
Friendo said:
The hardest part about dropping 35 maximum bets in 10.5 hours of play was explaining it to the pair of X chromosomes I live with. I don't have to share bankroll data with anyone but my woman, but I think it's hard enough to explain this to ourselves without having to explain it to others. The fewer people who know, the better.

Whipping out money at the tables, I'm often grateful that nobody I know is watching. If my friends/coworkers thought I was just gambling, I would be embarrassed.
I agree - my wife is the only non-AP that understands what I do at the tables. If I were to tell someone it would be on a need-to-know basis only - and give them as little information as possible.
 
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